Showing posts with label Anthony DeMello SJ. Show all posts
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Tuesday, July 1, 2025

Lucky:The Pilgrim and The Sherpa




" When in doubt just be...

  present and your authentic self."

- Unknown


"Follow your Bliss"

- Joseph Campbell



"A small group of explorers were guided through 

the Himalayas by one compassionate  

sherpa helping the companions on the 

journey. He would sing, raising and taking down

the traveller's tents , cooking meals , carrying and pulling

supplies and equipment, navigating the

small collective through the dangerous terrain

of the infamous mythical mountains.

One of the group was consistent sharing

his gratitude to the sherpa for his care and service.

The sherpa humbly explained it was just his job, 

"no reason to be thanked," he said softly.

One night a most fierce winter storm 

devastated the group's encampment. 

Lives and equipment lost - destroyed. 

The sherpa missing , one sole survivor,

the grateful explorer.

The survivor - weak, hungry and

in pain collapsed unconscious.

He woke covered in in multiple blankets 

with group of monks carrying him to

a distant hidden magnificent Buddhist monastery. 

There the man was bathed , 

fed and dressed with a fresh monk tunic.

One young contemplative gently invites 

the man to meet the great guru, 

the Abbot of the monastery . 

On their way to the audience the man was told 

all of this was a gift from the Guru who was 

thankful that this adventurer

had graced their home, their temple.

When the Abbot unceremoniously entered the chamber 

the refreshed traveler stood up ,

eyes wide opened ...smiling ear to ear 

recognizing that this Guru 

was the same sherpa who had been servant caring

for the man and his companions on their passage.

- A Zen Story by Anthony DeMello SJ (Adapted)


Inspiration :

Seasons roll on and questions grow deeper. Beliefs are challenged,

old baggage and wounds explored. New roads and rivers 

along unending mountains appear.

No easy choices. No easy answers. Desiring something more 

lasting than the worldly promise of brass rings and rewards.


Sometimes a guide, a sherpa, a voice in the wilderness suddenly

surfaces at unexpected cross roads. 

The journey enters a restrained metamorphic season . 

Seeds of purpose , authenticity , relationships , presence , 

and letting go begin to flourish . Lucky ? 

Synchronicity.


The Writing:

Lucky: The Pilgrim and The Sherpa

As leaves turn brown some creatures become concerned

about  the wind and the rain . Memories of the birth of the 

once-budding trees and flowers, 

and streams being relieved from spring 

rain are not forgotten. 


Walking into the dimly lit waiting room - 

adorned with paintings of European Cathedrals -

the pilgrim had no idea his expectations 

were about to be changed forever. 

What followed was an unexpected

emotional, intellectual , spiritual 

and psychological transformation.

Kirk , the therapist , welcomed the seeker 

into an unmapped Odyssey. 

Their conversations -- on poetry, music, 

books, spiritual fabric of the universe - 

led the pilgrim into

a rabbit hole of discovery.

Kirk was more of a navigator than captain,

more Sherpa than sailor.

One navigates the sea,

the other the soul.


Kirk gently advised: 

"A helmsman can weather rough 

seas and right the vessel by letting go. "

The pilgrim was a good student but slow learner.

He grew more comfortable with the idea of

egoless expectations and silent desires.


The two set out sailing into the deep. 

Kirk, slowly peeling back the layers,

shared the story of his own passage..


The walls separating the heart from the soul, the intellect

and body began to crumble . 

The reason for their relationship  faded into yesterday. 

A new chapter began:

Conversations on spirituality . 

Attending The Dodge Poetry Festival, where their soulmate 

philosopher-poets welcomed searchers 

into their cosmic fold. 

Lake sailing .

Zen tea ceremonies.

Musical jam sessions.


This spiritual journey - infused with wisdom,

art and silence---

was not what the pilgrim expected .

It was, however, exactly what both needed.


Kirk had shared a draft of his autobiography , Lucky. 

The pilgrim noticed something missing:

the story of the "Failed Retreat."

Kirk, a lapsed Catholic, had once been invited by 

his Jesuit Priest-Roshi (Buddhist monk) to an 

interreligious retreat. 

After a day or so ,Kirk told his priest friend ,

"I'm leaving.I don't get it.".

The sun set and rose a few more times.

Then, on  a memorable morning Kirk woke 

thinking ---

I get it!


When the pilgrim first heard that story, he thought

of the cathedral paintings in Kirk's office. 

"You can take the boy of the church",he mused,

" but you can't take the church out of the boy.  

Smiling , Kirk advised, "Write that down."


The seasons began to roll by faster . 

The lives of the two friends drifted apart, 

leaving space for occasional messages and calls.

One night after returning from a weekend with

his family the pilgrim checked his home phone.

It was the voice of Kirk's son. 

The friend who helped him with solving 

life's  puzzle ---his guide --- had passed.


The Jedi in training now on his own.


At the wake in Kirk's home  a heartbroken

daughter welcomed the somber seeker.

"My  father spoke of you," She said, 

"and I know some of your secrets."

Looking into the pilgrim's eyes, she shared something else:

On his deathbed , 

Kirk had looked up and said ,

          "Help me pray." 


Tears slipped down his face. 

He was momentarily puzzled ---

then came his "ah-ha" moment. 

   - His life was his prayer.

      And his prayer, his life.


- JF Sobecki

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Poetry: some words and ideas to contemplate

A few selections from a couple of Kirk's favorite Poets.

(Please click on links underneath the video)


News of Death

Last night they came with news of death

not knowing what I would say.


I wanted to say,

"The green wind is running through the fields

making the grass lie flat."


I wanted to say,

"The apple blossom flakes like ash

covering the orchard wall.


I wanted to say,

"the fish float belly up in the slow stream,

stepping stones to the dead."


They asked if I would sleep that night,

I said I did not know.


For the loss I could not speak,

the tongue lay idle in a great darkness,

the heart was strangely open,

the moon had gone,

and it was then

when I said, "He is no longer here"

that the night put its arms around me

and all the white stars turned bitter with grief.

- David Whyte

The Layers 

https://youtu.be/wk6xW41EFoA?feature=shared

Everything is Waiting for you - D. Whyte

https://youtu.be/MgQf5tx1hi4?feature=shared

Music: and such for your listening inspiration

and reflection 

(Please click on links underneath the video)

One Of These Days - N. Young

( Consider this an apology and a start)

https://youtu.be/XtRTA4u5QkU?si=6OgQc-WZV9LUC8-B

Rivers and Roads - Head and Heart

https://youtu.be/2gQLzoy5Jts?feature=shared

Any Road - G. Harrison

https://youtu.be/KCOFOWwCZdc?si=UXZc3vgIyR_A67z_

Simple Gifts- Yo Yo Ma/Allison Kraus

https://youtu.be/baNueuDCue0?feature=shared

Coda: Some additional considerations for your reflection..

Remember who touched you while on your busy passage.


Hope - Bill Moyers ( R.I.P.) w Wendell Berry 

(For Kirk [R.I.P.] Thank you for introducing me to B.Moyers- w The 

Power of the Myth and The Dodge Poetry Festival and

your guidance and friendship)

https://youtu.be/2j_r4jb9AYw?feature=shared

The Holy Longing -J.W. VonGoethe (Favorite Poem Project)


https://youtu.be/8YWoOj5mJMo?feature=shared


And we always need and benefit from a healthy laugh ....

(Kirk would have laughed)

Dalai Llama Walks into a Pizza Shop

https://youtu.be/WZy02_OFErk?feature=shared


AMDG

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Friday, September 1, 2023

Santosha and The Magnificence

 

Repeat when necessary...

The rich industrialist from the North was

horrified to find a Southern fisherman lying

lazily beside his boat, smoking a pipe.

"Why aren't you out fishing ?" said the 

industrialist. 

"Because I have caught enough fish for the day,"said 

the fisherman.

"Why don't you catch some more?"

What would I would with it?"

"You could earn more money' was the reply. "With that you could have a motor fixed to on

your boat and go into deeper waters and catch more fish. Then you would make enough to buy 

more nets. These would bring you more fish and more money. Soon you would have enough money to

own two boats ...maybe even a fleet of boats.Then you would be a rich man like me."

"What would I do then?"

"Then you could really enjoy life."

"What do you think I am doing right now?"

 - The Song of The Bird, Anthony DeMello SJ


"The Purpose of life is not to be happy.It is to be useful , to be honorable , to

be compassionate , to have it make some difference that you have lived 

and lived well."

- Ralph Waldo Emerson


The Inspiration :


Labor Day articles indicate a current rise in  unhappiness , stress and dissatisfaction with 

life amongst the global population. There are lengthy analyses about the correlation

 between work dissatisfaction and one's level of stress. What seems to complicate these

issues is how stress has become a primary indicator of various diseases ; including

cardiovascular disease and the longevity of ones life ( the more stress, the more likely 

one is likely to develop physical anomalies and possibly end one's life earlier than 

necessary) Though some statistics indicate some improvement, the overall trend 

does not bode well for many.  Consequently medical  research has indicated 

that the day and time of the week that has the highest percentage of heart attacks 

in many working men is....Monday mornings ( just before heading off to work.)

https://news.gallup.com/poll/507725/global-rise-unhappiness-stalls.aspx





The Writing:


Santosha  and The Magnificence


How many morning meditations on the ocean bathed beach

does a pilgrim need to nurture that nirvana

that seems to wave gently just off the shoreline

from that peace-filled pod of dolphins?

Is there anything that a pilgrim really needs

that constantly burns the flame of their desires?

"Satis" the choir sang in some ancient Latin chant.

"Sometimes you just get what you need" hymned 

the consort's voices .

The contemplative Yogi  suggests 

genes of sentient beings are transcendental

pieces that of their ancestors , now

flourishing in the children of their children.

Asking his novitiates, "Is it not possible that the same is true concerning

the ever mysterious spark of that cosmic creator of the universe ;

the creator in all creation ? "

Seeds of love, seeds of peace, seeds of compassion and generosity-

living in every aspect ...coming and going...being ... sacred

proof of the access to the magnificence of  santosha all-ways . 


- JF Sobecki

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The Poems and Such:

"Poetry is a gateway into intuitive consciousness. It knocks on the doors

 of the heart and the heart opens" 

 - Mirabai Starr


"Poetry is an Act of Peace . Peace goes into the making of a poet

as flour goes into the making of bread."

- Pablo Neruda


" To see the world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower.'

- Wm. Blake


Fluent 

I would like to live

Like the river flows

Carried by the surprise

Of it's own unfolding.


- John O'Donohue


I am Going to Start Living Like a Mystic


Today I am pulling on a green wool sweater

and walking across the park in a dark dusty snowfall.


The trees stand like twenty-seven prophets in a field,

each station is a pilgrimage--silent pondering.


Blue flakes of light falling across their bodies

are the ciphers of a secret , an occultation.


I will examine their leaves as pages in a text

and consider the bookish pigeons, students of winter.


I will kneel on the track of a vanquished squirrel

and stare into a blank pond for the forge of Sophia.


I shall begin scouring the sky for signs

as if my whole future were constellated upon it.


I will walk home alone with the deep alone,

a disciple of shadows , in praise of the mysteries.


- Edward Hirsch

_________________

The Music:

(Musical reflections on the inspiration)

Look Within - Poco

Wasted OnThe Way - Crosby, Stills and Nash
https://youtu.be/nWlEsta4xS8?si=ZqK-bcXwf_l2b6vB

Watching the Wheels - John Lennon
https://youtu.be/pTvbB4br1pA?si=Pfhpb8XuxVbxaJV2


Coda: For your listening/viewing pleasure if you desire:

What Makes a Good Life - Longevity Study( TED Talk) - R. Waldinger

Field of Dreams - Is This Heaven? ( Final scene)
https://youtu.be/lXjz-M_6eN8?si=bkf6TXIzrsXqAymJ


Some Musical Pieces/Videos for Meditation For Readers:

Queries: What do you to "let go" "to be ?"
               How do you find contentment/peace?

There is so Much Magnificence - S. Gold
https://youtu.be/vNHbGfjhH5I?si=_hbQ7iXABpStVX3I

Sri Angala Stotram( I Want To Know What Love is)- Krishna Das
( Read the translation on the video - listen through the end)

Embryonic Journey - Jefferson Airplane
https://youtu.be/k6PsMeU4_9Y?si=Ds6cmGZehhOPZ95K

Happy Birthday G!

"One day I will find the right words , and they will be simple."
- Jack Kerouac


AMDG


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Sunday, September 4, 2016

Days Like This - Good Luck ? Bad Luck ? - An End of Summer Reflection

“There once was a simple farmer who lived and struggled alongside his neighbors and friends, trying to exist and fulfill a peaceful life. One-day news arrived from far away, that his old loving father had died. His neighbors gathered to grieve, but the farmer simply said, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" 
In time relatives brought a very fine horse of great cost and fine breeding, left to the farmer by his father. All the villagers and neighbors gathered in delight with him to celebrate his good fortune, but he just said, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
One day the horse escaped into the hills and when all the farmer’s neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
A week later the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”
Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
Some weeks later the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg they let him off. Now was that good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”

      - Anthony De Mello SJ, Song of The Bird


“If you want to make God laugh, tell God your plans.”
    
                 Woody Allen

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

                 - Lao Tzu


It seems like yesterday that the pilgrim, who had grown tired of what was considered an extended and unwanted winter, was dreaming optimistically about a mystical filled summer season.  On the eve of the season and the great sacramental celebration for his second everything that was dreamed about would change in the flip of switch. Homebound for weeks great anticipations were altered. It wasn’t until this season was to make her final bow when the predicted second great hurricane of the century became a great false alarm the illumination occurred.

“So is this it? Is this what it is all about? Is your great plan just one big roll of the dice for us and then you wait and see how we deal with the outcome? Are you trying to teach us that our pilgrim egocentric plans are really of no significance in the long run? Why is it that it takes some of us so long to learn that it is how we respond to situations and people and how we treat others that matter? How is it that with all my imperfections that I am permitted to wake to another glorious new day? Why is it that my heart is not filled with one perpetual feeling of gratitude for all the tender mercies? How often do I have to be thrown off my Pauline horse before I hear your voice and trust in just being mindful and compassionate? Forgive me for not being more cognizant and appreciative of all those sacred pilgrims you have placed in my path to help me along on this passage. Though people come and go and things change I hope I remember the holy presence and that this life is a sacrament no matter where and how I am and there will be days like this. ”

(He remembered that when feeling blue and in doubt – PLAY Van Morrison!
 - Besides he had been accused of being on the Harrison payroll and a Jersey Boy disciple.)


Days Like This – Van Morrison



That’s Entrainment – Van Morrison



Real Real Gone  - Van Morrison

https://youtu.be/xwXK2KlMWj0


These are The Days – Van Morrison

https://youtu.be/_lyve_egY8o












*Labor Day 2016
For all who work, have worked, can’t work and want to work ... and of course my father..

Factory - B. Springsteen










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amdg










Tuesday, November 3, 2015

A Simple Matter of Trust...



dis·cern·ment
diˈsərnmənt/
noun
noun: discernment
1               
the ability to judge well."an astonishing lack of discernment"




2. 
(in Christian contexts) perception in the absence of judgment with a view to
 obtaining spiritual direction and understanding."without providing for a time of 
healing and discernment, there will be no hope of living through this present 
moment without a shattering of our common life"

co·in·ci·dence
kōˈinsədəns/
noun
noun: coincidence; plural noun: coincidences; noun: co-incidence; plural noun:
co-incidences
     1 
a remarkable concurrence of events or circumstances without  
       apparent causal connection
2      correspondence in nature or in time of occurrence.

OK, Let’s see if we can make some sense of this and that it doesn’t get too confusing. 
This pilgrim was going through the exercise of planning to outline the purpose and 
approach to the next blog post. Eventually, somehow, the proposed topics were
 narrowed down to a select three. So, as this exercise has gone in the past, an outline
 was drafted for each of the topics and possible approaches were thought about for
 each. Just as the stage of preliminary drafting was to commence the worldly distractions
 began like the rains and floods of early spring.It seemed that all the ideas and potential
 narratives had become flotsam and jetsam that could never be retrieved.

It wasn’t that the distractions were necessarily bad but they did interfere with the standard
plan and approach. Discomfort was first to surface and then a sense of anxiety increased. 
What to do? The words always seem to appear once that flame of inspiration is mystically
lit. Then it is a matter of human knowledge that attempts to arrange the words in a 
meaningful, grammatically correct and maybe even an impactful way. No words were 
conjured and the flame was barely visible by that inner eye.

Three topics remained….a good ole standard for the beginning of November  -
“Gratitude.”Another topic surfaced addressed the “After Glow of Pope Francis’ visit to
the United States.” Then there was a related topic about “Compassion, Mercy and serving 
the poor.” Still, nothing!

So when in doubt…that inner voices continued to whisper “let go.” There is an 
Ignatianexercise (The Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius) on the discernment of the spirits
that proposes letting go three days and let God, that magnificent miracle of the universe
somehow mysteriously,provide the answer. In other words, don’t worry about it, don’t pray 
about it, stop trying to force it…just trust God. If you believe and you trust - the answer will 
become obvious. There is this story where a father of a sick boy wants the disciples or Jesus 
to heal his son. Jesus says to the man,“All things are possible for those who believe .” 
This is where the pilgrim completely
identifies with that boy’s father as it is reported that the father responds “I do believe;
it is trust I lack (help my unbelief.”) Mark 9:24.

So, the pilgrim went on with trying to be present to the moment. The topics and outlines
for the forthcoming blog post lay dormant on scraps of paper and in a word document 
on hiscomputer. The weekend came filled with creative energy that was directed at 
another passion, the writing, performing and recording of music. This activity filled the 
moments and hours for three full days. On the night of the third day he was drained, 
exhausted as all energy was spent on the music projects. He hoped that it was all 
worthwhile as he went to bed there was a memory flash about the blog. Without 
thinking about it any further he decided to focus his attention to
the writing of the post in the morning.

The next morning the routine of making coffee and grabbing his journal as he settled in  his
“quiet time” was a mechanical response to waking and rising. Before settling into serious 
reflection, meditation, prayer and writing in his journal he would always like to “warm up “ 
with a smile by reading the online comics (cartoons from the daily newspapers) that he 
received automatically on his computer and smart phone.

These are what he saw immediately that morning … 







 He thought "Sometimes we need to just trust our own hearts."
The rest of words fell into place, as it was this brief journey that is his story.
…. Enough said

Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous
                    - Albert Einstein

We Sanctify all we are grateful for
                   - Anthony De Mello SJ

                                      Looking For My Life - G. Harricon ( Smart Phones click on link)

                                                        https://youtu.be/zcXN-nAJ2R8


                                  Any Road – George Harrison (Smart Phones Click on link)
                                               from G. Harrison's last live TV performance

                                                          https://youtu.be/BldrJGDhIME


Suscipe (St. Ignatius of Loyola)

Take, Lord, and receive all my liberty,
my memory, my understanding
and my entire will,
All I have and call my own.

You have given all to me.
To you, Lord, I return it.

Everything is yours; do with it what you will.
Give me only your love and your grace.
That is enough for me.










amdg ….. 

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